Ghanaian actor and media personality, George Nii Armah Quaye, better known as George Quaye has added his voice to the ongoing controversy surrounding Sarkodie and Yvonne Nelson, calling for both sides to heal from any pain.
According to Mr Quaye, he has a good relationship with both parties and has no interest in taking sides.
In a long post by the communication expert on Facebook, on Thursday, June 29, said Yvonne and Sarkodie have spoken their truths and people should respect them for their decisions.
His comments come after Sarkodie released “Try Me” to perhaps explain his side of the story following the allegations on him by Yvonne Nelson that she aborted a pregnancy because the rapper denied responsibility.
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“If you had the slightest idea the number of women walking around in pain consealed by shiny smiles…
If you had the slightest idea the number of women crying deep down for years lost loving a man who never loved them back…years they can never regain…
If you had the slightest idea the number of women unable to give birth due to feticides they had to undergo for various reasons…bad timing, unplanned, rape, abuse by close family members, teachers, care takers, drivers, bosses, spiritual fathers, godfathers, etc.
If you had the slightest idea the number of women screaming in silence, watching men they literally “sacrificed everything for”, totally ignore them in their daily struggles while they (the men) build happy homes with other women and openly flaunt same in their faces, you would probably understand why so many have embraced her book and described it as empowering, liberating, etc.
You see, for many, it is not about the book. It’s about the fact that someone found the voice they could never find to say the things they could never say.
But that is not to say they are all right.
It is also not to to say they are even slightly wrong.
Lady spoke her truth the best way she could.
Man spoke his truth the best way he could.
Lady was mostly praised
Man is mostly being criticized…
I recall reading and hearing statements like…
“You cannot tell her how to tell her story…”
But wait, you can tell him how to tell his?
How is that fair?
Let us go to Immanuel Kant for a second…
“The categorical imperative is a moral principle which denotes that you should “act only in accordance with that maxim through which you can at the same time will that it become a universal law”,
Simply means that you should act a certain way only if you’re willing to have everyone else act the same way too. In other words, do not change the rod you used when disciplining Takyi when it’s time to discipline Baah.
You accept her style, language, approach, choice of who to mention or not mention, etc but describe his as distasteful, disgraceful, disrespectful, etc?
Are they both not telling their stories?
How should one truth told the best way possible be any different from the other?
Personally I had hoped he wouldn’t respond.
But i also know better than to judge a man if I haven’t walked three feet in his shoes.
Why didn’t I want him to respond?
Well, because when you are in the limelight, you are an institution.
Every thing you say or do is “relevant”. You are someone’s business. You are part of the “raw material” that go into the processing plants of that factory called Mass Media.
People look up to you. So sometimes i think it’s just best to leave certain things alone. But who am I to determine how someone should react when “poked”?
I keep asking myself whether or not we would be here if and only if, like she did with others in the same book, she left his name out but described him and left the rest to our imagination…
But who am i to tell someone how to tell her story?
This is hard…
But hey, to all the guys and girls…mostly girls hurting deeply out there, please have faith and just hold on…Find a counselor…talk to someone…get it off your chest…and if it’s not too much to ask, please let it go.
Yvonne is my sister.
Sark is my brother.
I cannot take sides… I can only pray they both heal.
If you haven’t read the book, “I am not Yvonne Nelson” yet, please grab your copy from EPP BOOKS @ Legon or online. Follow Yvonne Nelson for details.
If you haven’t heard the song, well, it is also online. Just got to YouTube and type “Try Me”.
Bonjour(sic)”.
